Relationship
zoopslife on Jan 23 2008 at 5:15 pm | Filed under: Me, My Rants..
Is there such thing as Mr./Mrs. Right? How right would Mr./Mrs. Right be? When we find that person, will we be content? Or is it just on the ”surface” and not “skin-deep”?
The television and movies does not help by portraying all these romantic movies where it makes most of us wish things that may not happen in real life.
So, how would we know if he/she is the right one? When he is the right one, you will know, your own “sixth sense”. But sometimes the “sixth sense” can be wrong, that’s why there are divorces.
But then again there are couples who stay together till their diamond or platinum wedding anniversary. Even then, they would have gone through a lot in life. it does not mean that their life has been a bed of roses.
Why am I writing this? Hehe..no reason, just thinking out loud. Sometimes when we have found Mr./Mrs. Right, we still keep searching and is on the lookout. Why? Because that’s human-nature, hoping to find someone even better than what we already have or is it a test?
If you already have a great partner, then someone else comes along and you think that he is also exactly what you always wanted with no shortcomings of your current partner, then would you choose this new person? Some would.
But is that right? Have you ever thought of the person you are leaving? You just tell him/her that “Oh sorry, I thought you were the ONE, but apparently there is someone even better/closer to what I want… If you question the person who made the choice, he/she would say, why should I settle for 2nd best?
I mean what is 2nd best? How would you know that the first one wasn’t the best? What if your 2nd choice is not the best? That’s greed. Having said that, we won’t know whether the person is right or not until you really have spent time with him/her and understand them. There are a lot of things you must consider before making your choice to settle down. I am no expert. These are just my thoughts.
I am still in the learning curve..haha… I am not an easy person to live with. I was in a 7 year relationship. But then it ended just like that. How and why? Who is to blame? Both I guess. To begin with, the relationship was not based on trust, so I guess without it, it just falls out.
Amazing how we kept it for 7 years. But it was a hard-lesson learnt and looking back, I was really bad. It was my attitude, throwing tantrums and all that, you name it, I got it…bad girl..haha.
When the relationship was over, it really broke me, I was devastated and suicidal, he was my first boyfriend. Break-ups makes people do all sorts of stupid things…like stalking haha… For me it took me over a year to get over it. How? With help and support from family and friends. Also, finding someone new and getting married does help as well!! Hahaha!
But it does leave a scar in your life and I guess that I have changed, I still feel that something is still missing inside me, making me numb…. it’s just kind of hard to explain.
Anyway, as for now, my relationship with my DH is still considered new…only 4 years this year. So, both of us are still learning. It is a hard and long process but it’s the results that is rewarding. I guess, I just have to keep my temper in check….
I donch think anyone is perfect.. so i really donch expect the man to be. I’ve had bad, bad relationships before. But this one feels alright. After being together for 14 yrs.. 6 yrs online… and 8 yrs physically.. i feel alot better being with an ang moh.. well… more than a chinese. In my opinion.. the my ang moh is way more understanding.. compared to the chinese men that i’ve met before and dated. Maybe .. i’ve had bad luck with those chinese men.. but at least this ang moh.. donch expect me to stay size 8 forever.. even after having a baby… if you get my drift. And the best part is.. i donch have to deal with kay poh sister in laws.. and parent in laws. Life can be a bitch… if you are with the wrong guy and family. It takes alot in any relationship .. and my philosophy in life..?? Be thankful.. and donch think the man owes it to you .. to be nice to you. And closed 2 eyes..!
I think the reason for many divorces are becoz there is such a thing as Mr/Ms Right-for-the-moment, yunno how in certain points in our lives we need different things and maybe those people happen to fulfil those needs during that time, then after those needs are fulfilled if you fail to grow togeder then one will be left behind and the rift will grow wider and wider.
Oso the love changes, there are no more butterfly in your tummy kinda feeling and when someone new comes along and makes you feel “Ohhhh so Beautiful” then we start to think lor.
ya, better to control temper……. me also need to control mine…..
All I have to say here is that communication is key and that marriage is something to work on from both sides. You can’t just get married and leave it, you have to make it what you want it to be.
I think the key to a successful relationship or marriage are work together on communication and it’s important.Overcome the problem if we want to get it out in the open.Today i learned to be more control in my temper..that’s work.
Hi..got here from sweetiepie blog. well, i was in a 8th years relationship too and this year will be the 6th year with hubby. i know he is my mr. right as we are very compatible. we argue,we laugh just like normal husband and wife. i am can be person i want to be with him. with others, i tend to pretend i really don’t know why.most people say you will know when mr right appear..i didn’t expect it but i knew the moment he propose he is my mr.right..
No worries…..everyone do learn from past experience…For me, I’m a tough woman….I have first bf for 6 yrs, and when I announce ‘break-off’, he is the one who can’t accept it….and, I just can’t believe that I can just let go so easily without looking back…..maybe, when I said enough is enough…..I think we just need to be ourselves is the most important rather than pretending which might hurt in long run…
*sigh* What can I say? LOL
I don’t really know if it’s the right one or the wrong one. When we are happy we will feel we are right for each other and when we are mad or angry we will think we are not meant to be together… get the picture?
Human’s emotion…. super complicated!